In life we have a lot of things to think about like the risks and the fears, we have to see what is the best thing for us and for our family too.
Fear is this emotion, which stops us from taking risks and sometimes even from trying out new things. It makes us doubt our own skills and capabilities, even when we know that we can do it. It stops us from doing things we want or in which we see value. It is in human nature, to see the eventual negative result before we even take action.
Fear is irrational, caused mostly by our own thoughts, not based on real facts. Keep this in mind! Remember, fear is not logical, it just seems like evidence, real enough to convince us and lead our actions.
F.E.A.R = False Evidence Appearing Real
In personal life we can have a lot of fears and risks but we have to be strong so the problems don’t take us down. There can be a lot of things you can fear or be scared of and many ways you can overcome them. The most important thing is to be aware of your fears and take small steps every day to overcome them.
Who wants everything, loses everything.
Here we offer 3 ways to deal with fear:
Fear is an emotion and we need to learn how to deal with this emotion. What can really help you is self-talk. With self-talk you make yourself the target of your own comments, advices or reminders. If you do it often enough, positive self-talk can influence your behaviour in the long run, but please note it takes time. You need to repeat it every day if possible. Self-talk will help you stimulate your action, direct your action and evaluate your action. It can make a big difference in the way you feel about yourself!
Probably it sounds still a little bit weird to talk to yourself, but our experience shows it can work. The sentences have to be short, precise and consistent. And like we already said, it is not going to work the first time. You need to say it 10.000 times to believe in it. And a really important one is that you need to use “you” instead of “I”. Self-talk can be positive, to pump you up or to instruct you in your learning process. A few examples for self-talk:
– You rock, girl! You are so good at this!
– Well done taking the time to go jogging! Well done trying out the yoga session!
Believe in yourself
This is the most important part. With starting something new, it´s all right that you are scared. But you cannot allow the fear win. Whenever you have some insecurities, repeat yourself why are you doing it.
Try to think positively. Forget all the negative things. When your mind is optimistic, you are tending to do better results, because you encourage yourself!
Forget the word “no”. There is nothing what would be impossible. Instead of telling yourself “I won’t fail” say “I will rock it!”. Because there is a negation in the first sentence. When you change your way of thinking, it’s going to be easier for you.
Did you complete your daily task? Tell yourself that you are good and you are closer to your dream. Do not forget to do little rewarding things for you. It helps to raise your self-confidence.
We believe in you!
This blog post is an excerpt from the Bees Inspired – A Hive for Female Entrepreneurs Booklet that was created by the participants of Bees Inspired: A Hive for Female Entrepreneurs during a 10-day youth exchange that took place in The Netherlands from 18 till 27 January 2017. It gathered 42 participants from 7 different countries and empowered them to learn from each other about female entrepreneurship. The project is funded by the Erasmus+ programme of the European Union.